“How you see the things & what is your Focus.”

How you see the things- It depends more upon some factors such as your genes, culture, family, experiences, general atmosphere where you live and lastly your own intellectual…The mixture of all these different forces and elements creates a vision for a particular thing, Situation, problem, and person …! Well not all the time but  Sometimes it has been seen that persons perceiving and seeing the things differently have been called PSYCHOS or MAD in the earlier times but later wards the determination shown by that person has very much been lauded in the later part of the times….For example history shows that in earlier times some scientists were greatly opposed or even hung to death(by the staunch followers of narrow and shallow beliefs) due to their own strong conceptual beliefs based on their own research and experiments And in later part of the time the same people accepted the truth for which they had killed or punished the same person who was the originator of that truth…! Well…that was just an example where the seeing the different things generated ideas which were ahead of the time and were not acceptable by the people due to darkness of their own conscious but when the light showered upon them, the realization came to them as unpardonable sin…! So…confusion is seeing the things as it should be…or as it is…? Ok…In my opinion seeing the things based on your own rich intellectual…because among all other factors such as genes, culture, family, atmosphere, Experiences are those factors which forms the part of your intellectual somewhere…!

What is Your Focus- Focus is sum total of desires, expectations, and achievement. But detachment is also another aspect which is just like the two sided coin in this discussion…Swami Vivekananda has regarded great concentration & Focus as a gift to the rare ones who possess it but suggest as well that detachment from the things is also necessary because focus is all about doing necessary and detachment is all about avoiding unnecessary and removing the side effects of the particular Focus. And believe me great Focus can be a rare gift sometimes but to acquire the ability of detachment is really difficult thing…and i am practicing hard for it!

Well...Above given script is nothing but just the random thoughts running here and there sometimes…Nothing else!

Your are confused…Ok…?

Objective Achieved then…!

Have a Nice time...

Regards,

ViSHW.

There is a thin line between Maturity & Fantasy…!

      The Definition of the maturity in my personal opinion can be laid down in the following fact that it’s only the challenging situations which marks the tough decisions by the man and shows the true strength of character…while Fantasy is a state where one have a false assumption and false image of the particular situation. Now what is the connection between these two different terms…?

    Maturity is the state which provides strength to the inner core of the conscious. Now what is conscious…? It’s the supernatural force hidden within the bones and skins which has its own fear, emotions, desires, attitude, perceptions and storage of some extra sensory experiences. The equilibrium between these different elements of the conscious to make the right choices and the right decisions of a life is an endowment which is called MATURITY.

    

    Now…Fantasy…Fantasy is a state which is quite opposite of maturity…when the elements of conscious suggested above are shadowed by false hallucination or false assumption for the particular situation or the things which creates the mental blocks to see the reality…so now this inability to see the real thing is the disease which is called FANTASY.

Hv A Nice Time,

Regards,
ViSHW 

Conversation with Soul-A Philosophy note from the pages of My Life My Journey

                  

                    Deep veil and mourning was the only sound which was transcending through the walls of my dear friends house on that woeful day…Some women from his family and neighborhood were sobbing on that dark morning gripping everyone’s eyes tearful…Some man had carried sad expressions on the face…just 10 minutes  before I entered to this remorseful environment…I had got a call from the friend to reach at his home as fast as I can so that i can provide him true details of what has happened back at his home as his sister had asked him to come back from Baroda as soon as he can due to bad health of his mother in somewhat  mysteriously distressing tone….5 minutes later I reached his home…Aunty(His Mother) was laid down on the bed with no single breath in the body with whom I had talked just few days back and she had talked with so much laughter,fun & affection with me…!

                I got a call from my friend again…he asked to tell me the truth…but I had to say “just casual weakness nothing else and needs to take to the hospital but you just come here quickly as your mother is really missing you..So please don’t worry more yaar…till then I am here ok…don’t worry…!” he had got a sixth sense at that moment and told me that I am also not telling him the truth. He departed from baroda in private car…None of our friend were in position to reach at his home faster due to several reasons…But my friends father was a man of strong heart and didn’t let the tear come out of his dampen eyes…Soon he and some man from the neighborhood begun to arrange for the dead body’s cremation ritual…In one room the body was laid with some Agarbatties and tiny flame. Someone needed to sit in that room to accompany the body may be as a part of their jain ritual…i think…everyone sat down turn by turn 5 or 10 minutes to accompany the soul of my friends mother…I took my turn…deep peace was prevailing in the room…I could feel some strange vibrations but my eyes was hung on the that body only…some deep realizations were blowing out of my deep consciousness…Aunty always used to offer tea or drink to me and used to lovingly called me ‘Bapu’ and not only that the last time when I had spent two hours with aunty…she seemed so easy and talking much more than ever…Deep desire to get rid of that illness of dialyses…she had discussed with me…and I also had to give her promise of “This is normal and really ordinary thing aunty…and we are here so why you worry…so just take rest and everything will be all right!” She seemed happy after my and other friends’ consolation that night…Now against the same Soul I was seating alone in the room…even my eyes felt some liquid and got dampen as a form of guilt for the false commitment I had given her…!

But the soul was answering me about his lifelong journey and wanted to leave the message that 

“Son…Life is short…no one knows what happens ahead…live in the present…but when you would be at my place one day…you must say that I have lived my life as I wanted to rather than becoming the slave of consequences…be the one who created ripples of happiness all around himself…and realize the god with your mighty KARMAS rather than Spiritual talks and chantings…So Good bye & Good Luck Son…!”

My friend arrived and crying was obvious emotion for him so my all exercises to console were useless at such moment. By the evening all the rituals & Vidhis were performed and the divine soul bade goodbye to all of us who were present in the crematory…!

That moments were really unforgettable...!

Well meet later…!

Good bye & Have a nice time…!

Regards,

ViSHW.

The Common Teen-age Blunders and Hypocrisy of the Immature Minds

The Monday morning, gloomy and dingy, I was reading the Times of India and one article in all the clusters of information caught the attention of my eyes “Love affairs trigger more suicides than poverty and unemployment in India” which also inspired and triggered a series of thoughts and strong appetite to search over the true reasons for the common teen-age situation. I pondered deep over the situation and came with certain conclusions. Here, I will expose some of the hidden and dark secrets governing the minds and conscious of teen-age boys and girl.

First we need to ask certain questions regarding the average minds of average Boys and girls age          (18 to 25), their level of maturity and expectations, personal environment, Friends group and Soft skills to manipulate with certain emotions.

Let me begin with some of the aspects regarding the boys’ attitude and perceptions towards girls.

1.       1.Boy always has a natural inclination for girl who attracts him and is more exposed in his way for his likeliness to that particular girl. One more thing is obvious that after getting rejection from any girl it’s the past which embarrasses the most to any boy for his folly.

2.       2.The strange Competition among the friends to have a nice looking girl friend…Yeah that’s true in 80% cases.

3.       3.Smart and hunky cool Boys have priorities more of appearance in the partner rather than intelligence and some brain…later wards some has also dangerous tendency to make a mockery of sayings in friends group… “See…that girl is gorgeous for me of course and its just time pass yaar...as she is low with a brain as well…!”

4.       4.There are also a set of well civilized, intelligent, skilled and matured and mostly not addicted clusters of boys as well, but they represent only 20 to 25 % of all the boys’ community with overall above essential qualities in today’s scenario.

5.       5.Boys are always ready to change him to have a nice impression in front of the girls’ eyes with respect to his looks, politeness, and the way of behaving. One interesting and long example for that… if any girl says “Hi kavan…will you please do one thing for me pls…!” if boy has some urgency and denies politely then just one statement by girl is enough to motivate the boy to leave his urgency…. “Kavan…dear don’t you consider me a good friend?…dear I need your help it’s so urgent…!” so many dears, sweet lines and the task is almost done…Mr kavan will be more polite and will ask her back then “what’s so urgent dear Rohini…ill do it for as you are good friend..na!” Rohini will answer it back then… “Dear…My balance is low…can you help me to fill the recharge in my mobile…I feel shame to go to the shops…!” and Mr. kavan would happily provide the free service to recharge for the girl without knowing that shy and pure hearted girl needs recharge to talk with 100’s of his boy friends…!  

6.       6.The main reason for the conflicts among the boys in the group is co-existence of girls as well.

7.       7.There are also shy boys as well with the same tendency but lack of confidence prevents them to expose themselves in front of the girls and becomes the mockery of all the girls in private when he dares to do something strange to attract and win the heart of particular girl…!

8.       8.Boy always has double standards with respect to his Girl friend and his wife as well. He wants her girl friend to wear explosive dressings and feels dignity to grab her hand in his arms and walk with her in the campus but when it comes to his wife he wants certain limitations from partner to have courtesy and behavior in external appearance. Because explosive dressings of his wife will cause him shame among his friends yaar…don’t you understand this thing! This is one of the interesting things I have noticed in my lifetime so far.

Well these are just some of my personal observational incidents with respect to boys life now lets peep through the minds and hearts of average girl…well this one is the most difficult thing of this article as no one in this world is capable to measure that deepness but lets just try out some common one’s.

1.       1.Girl likes attention and attraction from the boys. The one who praises her all the time has a got a good chances of win the girl.   

2.       2.Never initiates the dialogue but expects the boys to start the relationship for which she will provide the comfortable platform.

3.       3.When it comes to campus, she will select the guy mostly who is more famous, stylish, hunky, smart and attitudinal. And bank balance and bikes are also some of the factors some girls really consider while choosing campus partner.

4.       4.Well…there is also some strange competition among the girls to catch the maximum eyeballs of boys by her nakhras…If I am wrong, ask this thing to any girl. Well let me give you one example…

“Trisha, you won’t believe Kavan was looking at me all the time today in the class…!”

Trisha would ask to Rohini-the-queen who thinks whole college dies on her nakhras  “Who? The one who got distinction and 1^st rank in 1^st semester?”

“But you know I don’t like him at all…he just provides me recharge service…that’s it…I have seen so many like him…staring at me!”

Yes girls have this tendency of “BHAAV EATING.”  In fact sometimes takes proud in saying yaar, I have rejected these many guys and that…blah blah…So funny…! And the same girl next day would not feel to shy away with a fabricated smile to ask the well written notes from Kavan-the-scholar…!

5.      5. There are also clusters of girls who are really matured and understanding and takes every step after careful analysis and prior observation and never gives so much space and never gives him any kind of signal if they don’t want to go ahead with the boy. Well, sorry but as I am not girl I don’t know exactly how much percentage such divine girls exist in overall girls community.

6.       6.Mostly girls are more dramatic than boys…but to be emotional is birth right of any girl.

7.       7.Girls also have double standard with respect to his boy friends and the life partners like boys do have…Girls want intelligent guy ultimately but always enjoys the company of hunky…famous and attitudinal ones. Well I don’t know this but one of my friends had emailed me this and as she is a girl, based on that I can put this point in front of you.

8.       8.All emotions are extreme....girls scores over boys sometimes with respect to commitment and loyalty towards the partner…care for the partner, and sharp observation but as well in so many cases the girls have also got the ability to handle so many partner together if any,  which is quite opposite of loyalty and commitment…!

Now…compare these both the extremes of the behavioral pattern of boys and girls…and pair it any one together and one should observe that only pair which can prove to be successful is 4th one from the boys analysis and 5^th one from girls analysis if combined together. And the most disastrous pair would be the one 3^rd analyses from the boys and 7^th analysis from the girls. Now both boys & girls have different set of expectations which must be fulfilled to have a nice chemistry if not then it would be soon nothing but the short story…!!! Let me give you example once again…

The boys who also wants the attention from the girl spends more time on mirror applying the fair-n-handsome to be looked the handsome one and the girl who wants attention will be more explosives some times with his dressing sense (her hard work behind mirror sometimes exposes her tendency) and fabricated smile on the face while talking frankly with the Fair-n-handsome guy. Both comes together and talk begins…boy will begin to praise the girl after sometime and girl would keep providing the smiles and thanks and so many dears…after so many ignores, sorrys and thanks in general talks and messages…Valentine day arrives…propose is made and girl says yes or will ask for some time…then after 4 days she will accept…the season of love starts…gifts are exchanged…Birthdates are remembered…sweet and emotional things are discussed…affair is exposed after some times….family embarrassment and “shame on you my girl (or boy)...is this the thing you are going to college?” break up season… but forcibly…ocean of tears… Both becomes Dukhi Atma for some time…once again Dukhi Atmas will become normal friends…Marriage season…Both marriages different one’s…partner comes to know in life time about his or her affair somehow….family clashes…once again possible break up…but no…wait…family and friends makes both understand…life continues again…but not the same as again…lack of trust somewhere among spouse…lack of unity affects upbringing of children…so children shows less potential in future…pension time…children are independent somehow and less interested in parents diseases and causes and expectations…father dies first due to long strain of above given sweet journey of life…then mother dies after becoming grandmother and telling the Dukhi stories to the grand sons and daughters and leaving the Dukhi generation behind….All lived happily in this story right…!!!  

So, the moral of the story…when you select your partner make sure he or she has open mind and large heart…and matured attitude and should not be like the one who is sensitive about his external looks, insecure and bankrupt from the inside and outside he is just ATM and Karizzma & four wheeler…fair-n-handsome guy or yea…girl with sleeve less…mysterious…heels two inches above the surface with a nice purse all the time and chatting and talking 24 hours on mobile…from outside…friends…Just show negligence and ignore any kind of show offs in the relationships. Your heart is not vegetable market should be handled with care…so throw away the rotten vegetables and make it a museum of valuable special things…be frank…Be pure…be natural…and be realistic!!!

So…Just this suicide thing given in news paper inspired a ray of anger upon me just because how petty are the reason for them to die without taking parents thought in mind and spoiling the hard work and mental strain of parents’ so far upbringing and expectation. And most suicides are committed by girls according to numbers after failure in love life…But still, I believe smart thing in such situation to do is  to acquire a rare gift of positioning ourselves selves in any situation and accept the life as it is which prevents emotionally insane people doing any such sort of venture…!

Well the piece of advice can be given in one statement only…. “It’s only our responses to the any situation which leads your destiny…now either you quit the interest in life and suicide like Dukhi Atma or rise like the phoenix which inspires the one to stand up once again from the ashes…! Choices and decisions are always yours to make your life miserable or memorable…!”  

Just one example…I had been once watching the interview of IIM/IIT –GRAD and the famous author Chetan Bhagat…He was asked whether he had asked any other girl for the relationship rather than except her wife…Guess what should be his answer…“Yes…I was rejected 9 times…!!!” and he continues and says…“but, I always had confidence of getting my true partner though and today I am the most happy man with my wife and my children…!!!”  Again when he is asked about what is his message to the rejection-queens on screens…Chetan comes closer to the camera…smiles…and says…“Sorry girls…I know how boring all your life is…I had knocked the door…but you were sleeping…but again sorry…Opportunity knocks the door once only…!”

Wow…isn’t it amazing thing…Guys and girls…this is all about attitude…attitude makes difference in ones life and leads you to the higher ultimate goal and reason of your life…So friends take necessary actions…keep your respect and dignity intact and give the crushing reply to any adverse situation with vengeance…! But please Suicide and Dukhi life in such niggling and petty things…No…No…Please…I beg you. Life is precious and make the most of it…Even I am surprised and tired now after reading whole of my article But that suicide numbers shown in news paper made me thinking and I pour down  all my emotional outburst on this innocent computer screen typing ferociously what ever came to my mind…Anyways Have a nice time…!!!

Regards,

ViSHW.

A Piece of Pearl from my First Progressing Novel

“Beta, why have you got bandaged nose…?

“What happened..?” Ma’s face was extremely anxious on seeing my first day college prize as I entered the home.

I was back in the home which was adorned with the traditional furniture and Images of the Lord Shiva, and Other gods everywhere on the ancient white colored walls. One Room and one hall, kitchen, bathroom and small little Puja room, that’s all I have to say about my luxurious place.

 “Did You Fight..? Just tell the truth ok?  Or you have my kasam”. said my mother and used same old weapon to know the truth.

 “Ma, it was just a little accident ok, I got crashed with a rickshaw while coming back.”

“Oh Bhagawan, die you rikshawalas…! Oh see, my son has to face all of this on the very first day of the college.” Said my Mother. “After so many Maantas and Badhas god has given me you mohan…and you, here don’t take care of your self.”

Oh god…Where does this Maantas and Badhas come from all the time?

 Yes, all the dear mothers have got a rare gift of connecting any logic with anything. But this Devputra was born with the side effects of Maanta and Badhas. How to make you understand Ma…!

“Ma, please don’t over react. Its just fine ok…get me some Nashta…I am hungry.”

“First you meet your father ok. He wants to give you something. Your nashta is in the kitchen. By the way, I am going Bazzar to buy some Sabus and vegetables.” Said my mother and went outside with some fellow neighbor aunties.

The Retired bank clerk in a traditional Dhoti, with the experience of 65 winters and the every wrinkle of the face bearing the vast and mixed experience of the life, eyes in the newspaper, had occupied an old wooden chair in the room.

His pension and Dakshinas from the side business of practicing the Kathas was the only source of income in the home.

“Beta how was your first day?”

“It was great Papa. Made new friends today.”

“Oh that’s wonderful. Yes, District topper should have friends to prepare class notes on behalf of them.” My father threw mischievous smile this time.

“Papa…please don’t make fun of me…ok. They are really good guys.”

“Oh Ok beta, and by the way, I heard what you said to your ma.”

“What?”

“Take these Keys. The keys of my Luna. You will not go to the college in bicycle from now on.”

“Thanks Papa. But I don’t want it.”

“Why? Do you feel shame in Luna? Papa made a mischievously sad face now. “I think, it’s less shameful than bicycle.”

“No Papa. I am fine with bicycle ok...!”

“Well Beta, I want my bicycle back from you. Cycling is good for the health you know…!”

My father was the best friend of his only son. He somewhere down the line wanted me to live my life at the fullest what he couldn’t do in his lifetime. Pulsar or karizzma was not cup of his tea, and I also didn’t care for them either.

“Ok.Ok. Papa, by the way, you are very smart ok.”

“Beta, that’s why I am your Papa…okkk ! And sometimes, you are also no less smart.”

“What? I mean, I just…I didn’t understand papa.”

“You have never got any accident so far my dear Mohan. First day of the college and bandaged nose…!” was the answer of my father having raised left eyebrow.

 He continued in little bit serious tone now “Beta, I don’t want any explanation, but what I want from you is just concentrate on the right things. You are a grown up boy now.”

“And you know there are certain rules in this Dave family. I, my father or any of your forefathers have never wasted time for any Girlfriend thing. I hope you would continue the legacy.”

Oh…god who will tell my father that he and his forefathers were living in Rakshabandhan Yug, while, we are the Friendship Day generation…!!!

“Yes, papa I do understand.”I replied. But, my tongue was contradicting to my conscious.

 “Very good Beta, I am Proud of you. I know…You will never do wrong things!” Said my Dear Dhotidhari Papa.

The SweeT MemorieS...!!!

 

The days gone are gone forever

Time goes and runs faster

But memories never fade and gives reason to smile in lonely times....

Enjoy life...and live it with the passion....

Nothing is precious than living for others and giving them the reason to hope and smile...

Because life has a meaning....Just die to pursue this meaning....and soon the life would be heaven on the Earth...!!!

 ViSHW

Questions which really bothered to me on wednesday morning….!!!

    The eternal questions which even makes Himalayan Tapasvis and yogis to stay absent from worldly Maya to ponder over ones true identity practicing ardent Sadhanas for 1000 or more years…confuses also to this MBA spoiled guy sometimes…Why we are we here for…What is the meaning of all this creations around us…Is everything real or just deceptive illusions...Who knows…Hey wait…by the way...I am not at all going to the woods and the forests to pursue the answer of these questions…May be in next birth…!

    Well…some human beings run after pleasures and enjoyment…Some stands high on the pile of money…some seek respects and values…some even live and die with religious ethos…I think these are really confusing rhetoric to solve the complex web of ultimate meaning of simple reason. And these questions can only be answered by that spirit which dwelt in such a flesh of the body which has burnt itself in the mighty flames of worldly sufferings for countless seasons. If such a spirit is asked these questions on his deathbed which is waiting for his departure, would surely answer in one line I think……

” I think I am happy that I am leaving the name behind as a person who never backed down and weathered every storm upsetting the minds of ‘fair weather Happy Sights’ for my situational plights and giving smiles to the noble ones who stood by me and believed in me.”

    Well I think, it’s more suitable answer for worldly man to live such a life of 60 to 80 years than going to Himalayas….Don’t you think so…

    Hey get going guys…just chill ok…life is short so go to bed with smiles at night…What do you say…and don’t confuse yourself with my above scribbling of “What is life” essay…well its just my first posting on my blog and nothing was coming to my mind so I thought let me start with something like this…By the way Have a good time!