The Monday morning, gloomy and dingy, I was reading the Times of India and one article in all the clusters of information caught the attention of my eyes “Love affairs trigger more suicides than poverty and unemployment in India” which also inspired and triggered a series of thoughts and strong appetite to search over the true reasons for the common teen-age situation. I pondered deep over the situation and came with certain conclusions. Here, I will expose some of the hidden and dark secrets governing the minds and conscious of teen-age boys and girl.
First we need to ask certain questions regarding the average minds of average Boys and girls age (18 to 25), their level of maturity and expectations, personal environment, Friends group and Soft skills to manipulate with certain emotions.
Let me begin with some of the aspects regarding the boys’ attitude and perceptions towards girls.
1. 1.Boy always has a natural inclination for girl who attracts him and is more exposed in his way for his likeliness to that particular girl. One more thing is obvious that after getting rejection from any girl it’s the past which embarrasses the most to any boy for his folly.
2. 2.The strange Competition among the friends to have a nice looking girl friend…Yeah that’s true in 80% cases.
3. 3.Smart and hunky cool Boys have priorities more of appearance in the partner rather than intelligence and some brain…later wards some has also dangerous tendency to make a mockery of sayings in friends group… “See…that girl is gorgeous for me of course and its just time pass yaar...as she is low with a brain as well…!”
4. 4.There are also a set of well civilized, intelligent, skilled and matured and mostly not addicted clusters of boys as well, but they represent only 20 to 25 % of all the boys’ community with overall above essential qualities in today’s scenario.
5. 5.Boys are always ready to change him to have a nice impression in front of the girls’ eyes with respect to his looks, politeness, and the way of behaving. One interesting and long example for that… if any girl says “Hi kavan…will you please do one thing for me pls…!” if boy has some urgency and denies politely then just one statement by girl is enough to motivate the boy to leave his urgency…. “Kavan…dear don’t you consider me a good friend?…dear I need your help it’s so urgent…!” so many dears, sweet lines and the task is almost done…Mr kavan will be more polite and will ask her back then “what’s so urgent dear Rohini…ill do it for as you are good friend..na!” Rohini will answer it back then… “Dear…My balance is low…can you help me to fill the recharge in my mobile…I feel shame to go to the shops…!” and Mr. kavan would happily provide the free service to recharge for the girl without knowing that shy and pure hearted girl needs recharge to talk with 100’s of his boy friends…!
6. 6.The main reason for the conflicts among the boys in the group is co-existence of girls as well.
7. 7.There are also shy boys as well with the same tendency but lack of confidence prevents them to expose themselves in front of the girls and becomes the mockery of all the girls in private when he dares to do something strange to attract and win the heart of particular girl…!
8. 8.Boy always has double standards with respect to his Girl friend and his wife as well. He wants her girl friend to wear explosive dressings and feels dignity to grab her hand in his arms and walk with her in the campus but when it comes to his wife he wants certain limitations from partner to have courtesy and behavior in external appearance. Because explosive dressings of his wife will cause him shame among his friends yaar…don’t you understand this thing! This is one of the interesting things I have noticed in my lifetime so far.
Well these are just some of my personal observational incidents with respect to boys life now lets peep through the minds and hearts of average girl…well this one is the most difficult thing of this article as no one in this world is capable to measure that deepness but lets just try out some common one’s.
1. 1.Girl likes attention and attraction from the boys. The one who praises her all the time has a got a good chances of win the girl.
2. 2.Never initiates the dialogue but expects the boys to start the relationship for which she will provide the comfortable platform.
3. 3.When it comes to campus, she will select the guy mostly who is more famous, stylish, hunky, smart and attitudinal. And bank balance and bikes are also some of the factors some girls really consider while choosing campus partner.
4. 4.Well…there is also some strange competition among the girls to catch the maximum eyeballs of boys by her nakhras…If I am wrong, ask this thing to any girl. Well let me give you one example…
“Trisha, you won’t believe Kavan was looking at me all the time today in the class…!”
Trisha would ask to Rohini-the-queen who thinks whole college dies on her nakhras “Who? The one who got distinction and 1st rank in 1st semester?”
“But you know I don’t like him at all…he just provides me recharge service…that’s it…I have seen so many like him…staring at me!”
Yes girls have this tendency of “BHAAV EATING.” In fact sometimes takes proud in saying yaar, I have rejected these many guys and that…blah blah…So funny…! And the same girl next day would not feel to shy away with a fabricated smile to ask the well written notes from Kavan-the-scholar…!
5. 5. There are also clusters of girls who are really matured and understanding and takes every step after careful analysis and prior observation and never gives so much space and never gives him any kind of signal if they don’t want to go ahead with the boy. Well, sorry but as I am not girl I don’t know exactly how much percentage such divine girls exist in overall girls community.
6. 6.Mostly girls are more dramatic than boys…but to be emotional is birth right of any girl.
7. 7.Girls also have double standard with respect to his boy friends and the life partners like boys do have…Girls want intelligent guy ultimately but always enjoys the company of hunky…famous and attitudinal ones. Well I don’t know this but one of my friends had emailed me this and as she is a girl, based on that I can put this point in front of you.
8. 8.All emotions are extreme....girls scores over boys sometimes with respect to commitment and loyalty towards the partner…care for the partner, and sharp observation but as well in so many cases the girls have also got the ability to handle so many partner together if any, which is quite opposite of loyalty and commitment…!
Now…compare these both the extremes of the behavioral pattern of boys and girls…and pair it any one together and one should observe that only pair which can prove to be successful is 4th one from the boys analysis and 5th one from girls analysis if combined together. And the most disastrous pair would be the one 3rd analyses from the boys and 7th analysis from the girls. Now both boys & girls have different set of expectations which must be fulfilled to have a nice chemistry if not then it would be soon nothing but the short story…!!! Let me give you example once again…
The boys who also wants the attention from the girl spends more time on mirror applying the fair-n-handsome to be looked the handsome one and the girl who wants attention will be more explosives some times with his dressing sense (her hard work behind mirror sometimes exposes her tendency) and fabricated smile on the face while talking frankly with the Fair-n-handsome guy. Both comes together and talk begins…boy will begin to praise the girl after sometime and girl would keep providing the smiles and thanks and so many dears…after so many ignores, sorrys and thanks in general talks and messages…Valentine day arrives…propose is made and girl says yes or will ask for some time…then after 4 days she will accept…the season of love starts…gifts are exchanged…Birthdates are remembered…sweet and emotional things are discussed…affair is exposed after some times….family embarrassment and “shame on you my girl (or boy)...is this the thing you are going to college?” break up season… but forcibly…ocean of tears… Both becomes Dukhi Atma for some time…once again Dukhi Atmas will become normal friends…Marriage season…Both marriages different one’s…partner comes to know in life time about his or her affair somehow….family clashes…once again possible break up…but no…wait…family and friends makes both understand…life continues again…but not the same as again…lack of trust somewhere among spouse…lack of unity affects upbringing of children…so children shows less potential in future…pension time…children are independent somehow and less interested in parents diseases and causes and expectations…father dies first due to long strain of above given sweet journey of life…then mother dies after becoming grandmother and telling the Dukhi stories to the grand sons and daughters and leaving the Dukhi generation behind….All lived happily in this story right…!!!
So, the moral of the story…when you select your partner make sure he or she has open mind and large heart…and matured attitude and should not be like the one who is sensitive about his external looks, insecure and bankrupt from the inside and outside he is just ATM and Karizzma & four wheeler…fair-n-handsome guy or yea…girl with sleeve less…mysterious…heels two inches above the surface with a nice purse all the time and chatting and talking 24 hours on mobile…from outside…friends…Just show negligence and ignore any kind of show offs in the relationships. Your heart is not vegetable market should be handled with care…so throw away the rotten vegetables and make it a museum of valuable special things…be frank…Be pure…be natural…and be realistic!!!
So…Just this suicide thing given in news paper inspired a ray of anger upon me just because how petty are the reason for them to die without taking parents thought in mind and spoiling the hard work and mental strain of parents’ so far upbringing and expectation. And most suicides are committed by girls according to numbers after failure in love life…But still, I believe smart thing in such situation to do is to acquire a rare gift of positioning ourselves selves in any situation and accept the life as it is which prevents emotionally insane people doing any such sort of venture…!
Well the piece of advice can be given in one statement only…. “It’s only our responses to the any situation which leads your destiny…now either you quit the interest in life and suicide like Dukhi Atma or rise like the phoenix which inspires the one to stand up once again from the ashes…! Choices and decisions are always yours to make your life miserable or memorable…!”
Just one example…I had been once watching the interview of IIM/IIT –GRAD and the famous author Chetan Bhagat…He was asked whether he had asked any other girl for the relationship rather than except her wife…Guess what should be his answer…“Yes…I was rejected 9 times…!!!” and he continues and says…“but, I always had confidence of getting my true partner though and today I am the most happy man with my wife and my children…!!!” Again when he is asked about what is his message to the rejection-queens on screens…Chetan comes closer to the camera…smiles…and says…“Sorry girls…I know how boring all your life is…I had knocked the door…but you were sleeping…but again sorry…Opportunity knocks the door once only…!”
Wow…isn’t it amazing thing…Guys and girls…this is all about attitude…attitude makes difference in ones life and leads you to the higher ultimate goal and reason of your life…So friends take necessary actions…keep your respect and dignity intact and give the crushing reply to any adverse situation with vengeance…! But please Suicide and Dukhi life in such niggling and petty things…No…No…Please…I beg you. Life is precious and make the most of it…Even I am surprised and tired now after reading whole of my article But that suicide numbers shown in news paper made me thinking and I pour down all my emotional outburst on this innocent computer screen typing ferociously what ever came to my mind…Anyways Have a nice time…!!!
Regards,
ViSHW.
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